have bad roommate or sense that YOU may be the bad roommate, either instance
requires identification of the issue at hand as to why that is the case. Once
identified, then you can find ways to improve or eradicate the issue based on a
few suggestions mentioned in this article.
with being messy. Someone is going to have
a total disregard to cleaning regularly, like letting the dishes pile up in the
sink or never thinking about using a scrub brush on the toilet in a shared
bathroom. To rectify this, you should sit down with your roommate and discuss a
chore schedule and stick to it. You can’t “make” someone abide by a chore
chart, but you can start dialogue in a non-accusatorial way such as saying
something like “Hey, let’s clean this weekend. I’ll do the bathroom and you do
the kitchen.” If they can’t do it at that time, then say you’ll do your half
and then ask them when they can do their half and then follow up with them on
issue is roommate theft or taking something without asking. Some people don’t
mind sharing while others tend to keep things to themselves. Boundaries are
important and if this issue arises, then take the non-confronted approach. Something like “I noticed half of my leftover
sandwich was missing. I was looking forward to eating it, so in the future, would you mind asking before you take something of mine? Thanks!”
should get to the point without blowing up into something more.
Noise. Whether it’s your roommate coming home late
and slamming the door behind them, or loud music playing at all hours of
the day, unwanted noise can easily disrupt the peace and lead to
bitterness. Naturally, we’re all less bothered by the noises we
make than the noises others make. Quite possibly, your roommate doesn’t
realize they’re irking you, so you can’t just expect them to suddenly
get quieter on their own - you’re going to have to say something. A simple request is all it takes; i.e.: “Do you mind closing
the cabinet doors more softly in the morning? They wake me up.” You can
also compromise with each other and set some boundaries around when
things like loud music are allowed, such as anytime between 4pm and
10pm. Shedding some clarity on the noise issue
and coming up with a few agreed-upon guidelines is often all it takes.
You won’t always be friends with your roommate’s friends. Sometimes you
may dislike their boyfriend or girlfriend, but don’t let that stop you
from having a normal living experience. If you dislike a certain friend sit down and have a discussion with your roommate. At this point you can discuss your options. The earlier you can get this resolved, the better, since the longer you
go without saying something the more resentment builds and the more
difficult it becomes to bring it up nicely.
Got anymore problems that could arise and you ave a way to deal with ti? Let us know below.